Ice Cream break
Yesteday I had a very pleasurable break form the rat race of life with a couple of my friends.. Its amazing how a simple thing like having ice cream can help to ease stress levels, plus it was just fun 2 sit back and have a small chat over ice cream.. So in the midst of the clincking of teaspoons in bowls , This thought came to me.. No matter how confident you are of your self, you always have certaing guarded demeanour which might be obvious or not obvious and although we grow use to it , it is a burdensome thing to have and it is a rare thing to be in company that allows you to let all those guards down. yesterday while I was with this friend of mine I could just relax and be free for awhile, it was like having a refreshing sea breeze wash over you :).. which is why I hope that I will be able to continue to meet up like that every now and then.. Talking about friends and relationships.. My Inter Personal Skills lectutrer ws discussing groups and relationships in the world brought up an interesting point, which was that any relationship no matter the its nature wether it be between parents and children or lover or married couples .. you have to work to keep the relationship afloat.. This is something I believe to be true with just one important addition..
If a relationship is truly special and worthwhile and it does mean alot to the people involved , then due to the mutual understanding between the two people or group of people , the actuall work you have to put in to make it work will be minimal and sometimes it may require herculean efforts to maintain it due 2 various reasons, you would not hink twice about putting in that effort and when you are enganed in the act of trying to make it work , it'll seem like the effort is but a small thing you are doing for the other person and if the other person or persons in the relationship see what you are doing they will meet you half way to ease the buredn and help you make it work out. I relaise this may seem like utter romantic and impractical drivel(so if it is please say so) but I really think if this happened more often the world would be a better place.. The least number of people in a realtionship is 2 . therefore to make it work they both have to put in an effort hence the saying "It takes to hands to clap".. But at the end of the day if the relationship means that much to you as a person .. you'll find a way to see that the realtionship is longlived..
As I an writing this several of my friends are undergoig trying time sin their own relationships.. some wit parents and other with their special male and female friends.. and it saddens me to see them thus.. what I have to say is that if they believe it worthwhile to continue 2to try to work it out they should but if not they should let it go with dignity.. as for parents.. what I say is this.. dont lose your parents because at the end of the day they will e the only people who stick by you through out (Unless they are completely irresponsible parents).. I was told you should try to maintain a good relationship with yur parents if you can becaues their blessings do enrich your life more than we as children will ever know(this is a topic I want to discuss later..But i'm nt saying we capitualte to all their demands GRIN,... more on that later)
To cut to the chase as it were.. Realtionships are things that we cannot escape and we should'nt escape .. because they are things that helps us through our darkest times and help us share our joy when we need to so simply as far as possible be honest in your realtionships.. and try to be fair in them.. try to be a better person through them and you will become more than you though you could be..
